9 Steps to Enjoy More Synchronicity in Your Life

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Last week I saw this striking piece of graffiti in Shoreditch. I don’t often stop to look or take photos, but there was something magical about the artwork - so I took my time and took the photo, waiting for an iconic London black cab to speed past. Do you like it?

The next day, whilst researching the benefits of working a 4 day week, I saw that very same location filmed by the BBC.

I smiled. I took it to mean I should try working a 4 day week once in a while, and put it down as a moment of synchronicity.

The people over at Oxford define synchronicity as:

“The simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection”

Carl Jung coined the concept, no less.

I love it when things happen through synchronicity. Recent examples include:

  • I messaged an old friend I haven’t messaged for months, and she happen to message me at exactly the same time.

  • I have a feeling that my assistant is going to watch a musical the very day I suggest it to her, and she’s booked it to see it that day. And we’ve never discussed musicals in the many years we’ve known each other.

  • Our Museum’s first address is at building number 42, and our new venue is called 42 acres, and we launch it exactly 42 days after we run our final major event in the previous venue. And it’s my 42nd year on planet earth too. Boom!

Why do I enjoy spotting such ‘coincidences’? Because when I spot them, they remind me of this quote, which is hanging outside our new venue:


“There are only two ways to live your life: as though nothing is a miracle, or as though everything is a miracle.” - Albert Einstein

As a science student, I was taught that everything was random - coincidences happen due to chance. But living that way is so boring! Whether everything is random or has some sort of magic behind it, no one can ever prove one way or the other, no matter how much evidence they have. So, I choose to live my life as if magic does exist - as if the Universe is on my side.

One interesting thing I’ve noticed about synchronicity. The more often such events happen, the more I feel I’m living in line with my calling. When I’m feeling positive, when I’m spending time with positive friends that believe in the power of synchronicity, the more I notice such events.

I’ve shared similar experiences with my post on increasing luck in your life too.

Here’s my mindful tips for inviting more synchronicities into your life:

1. Look out for synchronicities today! Just be aware of so called ‘coincidences’ and rather than seeing them as a insignificant random occurances, consider them a moment of synchronicity and acknowledge them.

2. Act as if the Universe is on your side. Rather than considering yourself on your own, trying to navigate through the challenges in life, see if you can imagine that the Universe is giving you experiences to support and help you. To teach you. To make you smile. You could even try considering everything as significant in your life in some way.

3. When things seemingly go wrong, don’t jump to negative conclusions. Instead, look out for an unusual opportunity that may come out of such difficulties.

4. Take decisions based on synchronicities. This is a more tricky one, but play with it. For example, when I kept seeing the number 42, on buses, on number plates, I took it as a sign to work with an organisation called 42 Acres when they approached me. So rather than spending hours weighing up the pros and cons, I used synchronicity to help me make a decision.

5. Smile when synchronicity happens! For a while, I made the mistake of taking synchronicity for granted. ‘Oh well, just another synchronous event’ I thought. Bad idea! Then the synchronicity loses its magic. Instead, I now think ‘Yay! I wonder what other magical synchronicities are in store for me today?’ Having this fun, playful attitude is such a joyful way to live. (Here’s my smile meditation on insight timer app to help you rediscover your inner smile)

6. Spend time with other people who believe in synchronicity. I find this can really supercharge the amount of moments in which I spot magical, mysterious and fun synchronicities.

7. Practice awareness and kindness raising activities. Like mindfulness, kindfulness, other meditations, yoga, tai chi, qigoing and so on. These practices raise your level of awareness so you are better able to spot the magic of synchronicity more often.

8. Control and plan less. Control can be very boring. Planning every minute can be a chore. But when you go into a meeting, event or situation without a plan, you’re creating the space for magic to happen...as anything can happen. It’s more scary but it’s also more fun. Things are not really under your control anyway - that’s just an illusion. So why not let go and see where synchronicity takes you today? If you spot something, great. And if not, no worries either. Breathe and be patient. :)

9. Do acts of kindness for others. They make you feel good and they’ll make the receiver feel good too. This feel good attitude will lead to some lovely synchronicities.

BONUS TIP - Because the Universe is on your side today!

10. Practice Gratitude. Even just thinking about one think that you’re happy or grateful about that happened today as you drift to sleep could help you enjoy more magical moments of synchronicity in your life as you’ll have a more realistically positive outlook. Here’s how.

If you’d like to learn more about my approach of combining mindfulness with kindness, consider my free 7 day course. Or my full 8 week program which is currently on sale - includes 60 mini daily videos and over 15 guided kindfulness audio meditations to try.

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How To Be Mindful With Zero Concentration


When I was first taught meditation, it was a type of meditation similar to what is called TM, or Transcendental Meditation. Have you heard of it?

My First Experience of Meditation

If I wanted to learn this meditation I was asked by the organisation to pay a month’s wages (or maybe it was a week’s wages...I can’t remember...I know it wasn’t much as I was a poor student!) and offer a white cloth to represent purity and some flowers to represent something else.

Anyway, in exchange for these gifts and payment, the teacher taught me meditation. I remember feeling quite embarrassed walking on the streets of London early on a Sunday morning with these seemingly odd gifts, to give to someone I didn’t even know.

After meeting the teacher one to one in a quiet room, I was given what I was told was a secret mantra. I eventually found out most people were given the same mantra. I was taught to repeat the word, the mantra, in my head repeatedly and to concentrate on it.

At first, it seemed to work really well! My mind calmed down and I felt better. But after many months, I got bored of repeating that word to be honest. The process felt too mechanical to me. And having read research by Dr. Herbert Benson in his book the Relaxation Response, I found it didn’t really matter what word was used. As long as you used any word and quietly repeated it for a while, your mind would calm down, your blood pressure would decrease and you’d enjoy some health benefits. My skepticism had returned.

Discovering Mindfulness

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Some years later, looking for research papers on meditation, I came across mindfulness meditation. In this meditation, I was again taught to concentrate, but this time often on my breath. My mind kept wandering but the teacher patiently kept teaching - don’t worry if your mind wanders, just gently bring it back...again and again. The ideal would be to be concentrated on the breathing...this was a bit better than the mantra meditation, but still didn’t feel quite right. Something was still missing for me. But I didn’t know what.

Exploring True Mindfulness Through Letting Go

Finally, I discovered another way to meditate, which I’ve enjoyed over the past few years. A meditation I refer to as Kindfulness. I believe this isn’t a new type of meditation, but is actually the meditation that the Buddha recommended, but has become lost in translation - literally.

The last part of the eightfold path in Buddhist meditation is called Samadhi. Most people translate the word to mean concentration, but that’s incorrect according to my teacher Ajahn Brahm. He considers it a gross mistaken translation by Rhys Davids more than a hundred years ago. Mindfulness is a great translation of Sati, but concentration, which implies effort rather than letting go, is a very unhelpful translation of Samadhi.

Samadhi actually means stillness. The mistranslation as concentration has caused a lot of suffering and a lot of headaches. There are even lots of monks and nuns getting ‘meditation headaches’ due to their efforts trying to concentrate on their breathing so much!

How To Practice Mindfulness Meditation Through Stillness


True meditation is about stillness, not concentration. Concentration implies effort and willpower. But willpower is very weak. Within seconds your mind wanders off….why? Because your poor mind gets tired and bored!

So what’s the alternative approach?

Letting go.

Just sit down and be. Rather than being the controller of your mind, be an observer of your mind. Watch how your mind gets all caught up and then set free again...like the waves in the ocean. Sometimes your mind may take you off for 10 or 15 minutes on a series of thoughts, and sometimes just for a few moments. Either way, it’s your chance to observe and learn how YOUR mind works - don’t worry about comparing yourself to others.

One forum responder put it beautifully:

“Starting out trying to concentrate is like trying to stop an avalanche with an umbrella. Better to step aside, let it go by and observe the still terrain after it has passed by.”

The writer was implying thoughts to be the avalanche and you to be the one choosing to try and stop the thoughts like an umbrella. Not a good plan!

So the idea is to be kind to your mind rather than the controller of your mind. When you give your mind the freedom to think whatever it wishes to think and stay as a witness of your thoughts, they gradually slow down because you stop interfering with your mind.

Right now I’m watching some beautiful clouds in the sky. I’m not blaming myself for any dark clouds. I’m not praising myself for any lovely white fluffy clouds. I’m just watching the clouds as they pass through the sky. Sometimes I get caught up and interested in the shape of a cloud. And sometimes I take more of a step back and notice the sky as a whole. And when I bring a kind, friendly attitude to sky, the experience is even more pleasurable. The awareness grows from not just intellectualising from my mind, but more from my heart.

It’s the same with your mind. The sky is your mind and the clouds are your thoughts. Sometimes you get caught up in the clouds and sometimes you step back and see the sky as a whole. What really matters is your attitude. Whenever you remember, bring a curious, kindly awareness to your mind and the thoughts that arise within them. You can’t really control what clouds come along, but you do have a bit of control with your attitude. Play with your attitude as and when you can.

Curiosity is the way.

Friendliness is the way.

Stillness is the way.

If you’d like to learn more about my approach of combining mindfulness with kindness, consider my free 7 day course. Or my full 8 week program which is currently on sale - includes 60 mini daily videos and over 15 guided kindfulness audio meditations to try.

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Facebook Selects Museum of Happiness amongst their Top 115 Changemakers from 46 Different Countries


In the past few weeks I’ve struggled to find time to write to you all. I promise I do have good excuses, which I’d like to share.

Number 1 - The Museum of Happiness Moved

We recently had to move our beloved Museum of Happiness out of Camden Town in London, partly due to high running costs, and were searching for a new home. After months of looking and many meetings, we found our new partners - 42 Acres. We plan to run events weekly in East London on Friday nights, starting with about 30 minutes of mindfulness meditation and followed by playful workshops bringing the insights from the science of happiness to life. We also plan to run retreats in Somerset in England to help some of you recharge and renew yourselves.

Our long term plan is to work on fundraising to build a large, permanent Museum of Happiness in London in the next few years, dedicated spreading values like mindfulness, kindness, creativity, community, gratitude and wisdom. And also potentially to offer online training so you can start a Museum of Happiness movement in your area!

Number 2 - We won a major award from Facebook!

The Museum of Happiness was selected as one of the top 100 communities in the world making a meaningful difference. This is the first time Facebook has ever funded such ventures. So last week we were flown to Facebook’s Headquarters in California to meet the other winners from 46 different countries and I’ve started a year-long community leadership training which includes support and some funding to work on a one project to continue to grow and increase the impact of the Museum of Happiness. So exciting and such a privilege - we’re so honored.

I was also asked to guide a Kindfulness Meditation to all the global changemakers and Facebook staff, which they all seemed to love. We got to meet the head of Whatsapp and the Chief Operating Officer of Facebook, Sheryl Sandberg. She told us that Facebook’s mission changed last year to help communities to flourish, hence this program. Here’s the other winners selected for the program. And Forbes wrote about it here.

I met so many amazing people in the few days I was there. Some new friends of mine include Rami who works in Egypt and has reunited 1003 missing children there, bringing together the help of 700 volunteers. Paige who runs the Better World Museum, working for a more inclusive and equitable community. And Dave from Yes Tribe, an outdoors-loving community of doers with thousands of members globally who also have a ‘YesBus’ to organise community events.

It’s such a privilege to meet people that want to make a better world…I was so touched. If there’s any changemakers you’d like me to interview from the winners, let me know and I’ll do my best to make that happen!

Mindful Insights

Whilst all these both exciting and challenging times having been happening, I’m pleased to share that I have blocked out time to meditate, and those times have been truly joyful.

I had the obvious but powerful insight a few weeks ago that meditation is the art of loving yourself. Meditation is time to be faced with your own thoughts and emotions and worries and dreams and bodily sensations and crazy ideas. The question is not so much what your thoughts and emotions are, but how you relate to them. Can you begin to meet them with a little bit of kindness and love? Can you let go of trying to meditate and let whatever happen, happen? Can you love yourself just as a wise and kind friend would love you?

These are the questions I’m holding right now.

If you’d like to learn more about my approach of combining mindfulness with kindness, consider my free 7 day course. Or my full 8 week program which is currently on sale - includes 60 mini daily videos and over 15 guided kindfulness audio meditations to try.

20 guided Kindful Meditations,
50 High- Definition Videos
200 students have completed the program
5 stars is the average rating!

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